My Son

Now here's something that I totally don't understand with my son. He is 17yrs old and feels that I should have to take care of him for the rest of my life. Where he got that idea from is beyond me. He dropped out of school because of failing 9Th grade two years in a row and according to him, that he was getting his butt kicked on a daily basis. Every time he had made me aware of this, I went to school to take care of business. Other times, police were called. He was getting bad grades every card marking. The teachers had told me that he literally chose not to do the work and even admitted to it. He told me that he couldn't focus on doing the work because of worrying about those kids. What I don't understand is how he can be so focused on video games and playing games on the Internet but not on his homework or the work at school. He told me tonite that our family stresses him and that he's tired of it all. He also told me that all he has learned in life so far is corruption,lies, and hatred. All I have ever taught him in life was that things were not going to be given to him for free and that he would have to work for what he wanted. He brought up about his grandfather yelling at him. I asked him,"Why would he yell at you? Did you get your chores done?" His response," I don't know WHY he's yelling, I got my stuff done!" Truth be told, he didn't get his stuff done, hence the yelling. Not one time in my son's life has he EVER admitted that he was wrong OR taken responsibility for his own actions. Not ONE SINGLE time. As far as he is concerned, I'm in the wrong, his grandfather is in the wrong, and anyone else is in the wrong. He plans on taking off when he turns 18 next year. It worries me that if he takes off without REALLY thinking about the bigger picture, that something might happen to him. I don't want him to leave on bad terms, but it seems that he blames the family and everyone around him for his misery. I was and still am in tears because I don't know what else to do. I've tried talking, that didn't work. I tried therapist at one point, that didn't work. I've tried other people talking to him and THAT didn't even work. So when is enough actually enough? Because as far as he is concerned, I haven't done enough. I could use any help I can get right now. He says that he's mad, stressed, and all. The sad part to it all is that he doesn't even see what he is doing to me as well as everyone else in the family and those around him.

Dreams

I've been having these dreams lately and I can't help but think that they are referring to something that has happened to me or maybe something that is going to happen within the near future. I have stresses everyday and I'm sure you all know the stresses I'm talking about. I'm talking like money, job, family type stresses. Why does it always have to be at least one of the three things that I've listed. I'm sure that there are alot more stresses than what I listed, but you've got to take in consideration that these are the MAJOR issues we have to deal with in life.

Everyone has a dream of being something better than what they are, but for some of us, we never really reach that goal. We get close, but that's about it! I try to look at things in a different way, thinking that maybe if I had done things differently, then I would have gotten what I wanted to begin with. I don't know...maybe I'm just rambling like I always do.

My question to everyone is that IF you could change just one thing in your life to make your dreams come true, would you? Or be thankful for the decisions that you made to get you to this point of your life?

For the Parents

OK, I just received in the mail today a envelope addressed to my two kids. When it was opened,there was a Wedding invitation for their father and the woman he was messing with during our marriage. I didn't realize that it would be so funny that I actually was laughing so hard that I went into a coughing fit. My son was reading it and said straight out that he did NOT want to go to it (he's 17yrs old). My daughter (she's 16 yrs old) came home and the invitation was shown to her. In a nutshell, neither one wanted anything to do with the wedding(even though it was their father).

How can a father, that treats his own children as if they are practically NON-existent, send an invitation of HIS Happy Moment when HE can't even remember THEIR Happy Moments (such as birthdays, Christmas, summer vacations,etc)? Is it like a cruel joke that he likes to do just to make them feel miserable? If you knew his past on the contacts he had with his children, you would understand the question!

I think about how some parents can be sooo cruel one moment and then the next try to butter the kids up with gifts and what not, just to keep them from hating them. I can base it on my own experiences and things I have heard from other men and women that have had the same things done to their children. Why have children if you will NOT take responsibility in raising them and showing them the love that you have for them? It's no rocket scientist that needs to figure out how to love your own blood!

This goes out to all the parents that show their love to their children: Continue to be strong and standby you're children every step of the way because its what you do that will make a difference in their lives! I love you all that stay as strong as myself and I wanted you to know that there ARE people out their that are being just as strong as yourselves.

For ALL of the Deadbeat Parents: I have pity for you because you didn't realize what you had created and how precious it is to even have any children because there are many out there that wish that they could even HAVE children. You all need to get your crap straight and start realizing that there are more things in life than being selfish and thinking of only yourselves.

What is considered to be a true Church of God?

Every day I think about what is actually considered to be the true Church(es) of God. I've been told that ANY church is considered a TRUE church of God if its a place where people go to gather to praise him.

If that was the case, wouldn't ANYWHERE be considered a Church? Even out on our own lawns? I've never been baptized into any specific religion even though my father's side of the family is Catholic and my mother's side of the family are Buddists.

I'm now going on 39 yrs old with no religion, YET I still believe in God. Also with the way EVERYONE speaks about different religions, it makes it difficult for people like me to decide on which religion is the correct religion to go with.

So I've decided that the only TRUE Church that ANYONE needs to really go to is the one within YOUR heart. Going to REAL LIVE churches to me is just a way for people to congregate and share in each others beliefs. So the question now is what do YOU believe to be a TRUE Church of God?